Have you ever thought about what people will say about you at your funeral?
Have you ever thought about what you HOPE people will say about you at your funeral?
Take a minute now, and think about it. How do you want to be remembered? What words do you want people to consistently use when describing you?
Here’s a small sampling of what might come to mind: strong, loving, kind, funny, warm, compassionate, considerate, courageous, friendly, graceful, wise, creative, optimistic, resilient.
Write down the words that come to mind. Take another minute to reflect on how those words look in action. How does one portray that description? For example, what does it mean to be ‘loving’? What does ‘courageous’ look like? Whatever your words are, how can you incorporate them into your day more? How can you exemplify that characteristic in each interaction you have with those in your life so you align who are you now with you want to be?
Each morning when you wake up, review the list. Visualize yourself living your words. Repeat the words as you go through your day and when you feel frustration creeping in. At night ask yourself if your thoughts and actions were congruent with the ideals you’ve laid out. Did you measure up to your own expectations to be the type of person you want to be remembered as? If not, how can you improve?
You won’t get it right all the time, and that’s okay. You can screw up and be crabby and resentful now and then. But you know you can be better, and you know you WANT to be better. You won’t become what you want to be by passively interacting with people or by reacting to the hard balls thrown at you. You become what you want to be by intentionally and deliberately deciding what to be. Align your thoughts and actions to that vision so they become habits. Habits turn into practices and become embedded with who you are as a reflection of your identity.
Be now what you want to be remembered for later. There is no other time.