If you’ve ever read the Five Love Languages, I’m a total Words of Affirmation girl. A good quote can inspire me for days. Bombarding myself with positive quotes has been an extremely effective technique for developing a healthier mindset. I’ve always loved catchy phrases; in fact, I have notebooks full of them dating back to my junior high school years. I remember going over to the neighbor’s house as a kid and racing to her fridge because her mom always had sticky notes on it with powerful words.
While I’ve known this about myself for quite some time, I never thought to use it as a coping strategy or self care technique. About a year ago, I embarked on a fitness journey to get myself back into shape, through an online do-it-at-home exercise program. My goal was to get myself in better physical condition through daily hour long work outs. And without a doubt, that happened. But the trainer also continuously offered up motivation and inspiration throughout that hour. It eventually started to stick. I wasn’t just making my body stronger, I was making my mind stronger. Hearing affirmations every day profoundly changed my outlook on my situation.
You have to do the work to get the results. You are stronger than you think. You are worth being your best. Do something today your future self will thank you for. Strength doesn’t come from what you can do; it comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn’t. It doesn’t get easier; you get stronger. I repeat: LIFE DOESN’T GET EASIER. YOU GET STRONGER.
A caregiving journey is no different than a fitness journey. Well, okay, obviously it’s a lot different. But both take not just physical stamina, but also mental strength. Focus. Determination. You can so easily decide it’s too hard. Complain about everything that hurts. The time sacrificed. Lingering soreness. In the end, its mind over body. It’s effort and attitude that drive the results you get. It’s a choice between letting it defeat you, or rising to meet the challenge. It’s not easy. No body said it would be easy. But it is worth it. It is worth making this journey count. It is worth finding love and joy and strength in your days. It is worth seeking to be your best self even when you feel surrounded by the worst of circumstances.
It’s the uncomfortable, the hard, the suffering that makes you stronger. Sometimes you have to go through the worst to get to your best. And remember, your mind is a powerful thing. Fill it with positive thoughts, and your life will begin to change.