“Note to Self:
Every time you were convinced you couldn’t go on, you did.”
- the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.
- the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity. synonyms: flexibility, pliability, suppleness, plasticity, elasticity, springiness, spring, give; durability, ability to last, strength, sturdiness, toughness
Resilience is what makes us. It is what gets us through the hard, what carries us through situations we didn’t think we’d survive. Experts say resilience is actually ordinary. Not extraordinary. Not uncommon. And far from impossible. Human kind is resilient. It doesn’t mean we don’t feel distress or suffer, and it’s in fact the opposite. The greater the emotional distress, the deeper our level of resilience can become.
While resilience may be common, it doesn’t come automatically. How do we harness its power and further develop its strength? Studies show caring & supportive relationships are key factors in bolstering ones resilience. So make connections, invest in relationships, give and accept help, get involved with your community. Other strategies include:
- Focus on the steps in front of you rather than the mountain. Crises are not insurmountable; break down stressful events into smaller, manageable bites and address one item at a time.
- Accept what is. Your life will never go “according to plan” and the sooner you acknowledge and accept the circumstances, the sooner you can create a strategy to copy and move forward.
- Implement Kaizen. This Japanese technique teaches that goals can be reached through taking the smallest of steps at a time. Creating realistic & achievable goals not only helps us reach those goals, but also builds confidence and long term success & sustainability.
- Just do it. When a decision is placed in front of you, listen to your gut reaction and make the decision without the drama of over thinking it.
- Reflect. LOOK for ways you’ve grown, what’s improved, how your outlook has changed for the better. We often forget where we started in the big picture, yet it’s so important to remember how far we’ve come to know we have the strength to keep going.
- Write down affirmations of your self, daily. Believe in your abilities and feed your mind positive messages. You listen to yourself more than you realize, so be deliberate in what words you say to yourself.
- Perspective matters. Broader context & a longer-term view can help us face traumatic events. We’ve all heard that time heals all wounds, and while grief may always exist, remember that all things, even your troubles, eventually find their end point. This, too, shall pass.
What has helped you cope and move forward? We don’t have to make progress instantaneously; sometimes it’s the one-minute-at-a-time that gets us through.
You are strong. You are capable. You are worthy. You are resilient.
Read that again. And again. And again.